Ep 44: Matis Miller | What finding common ground with "uncontrollable" children can teach us about acceptance, flexibility, and love

My guest this week is Matis Miller, a licensed clinical social worker, a certified cognitive and dialectical behavior therapist, father of 6 children, and author of the book “The Uncontrollable Child.”

Any parent can tell you that we have a lot of ideas about what a child should or shouldn’t do, or how they should or shouldn’t act and behave. And this is the root source of so much of the kind of frustration only a parent can truly understand.

But as Matis writes in his book, when you focus on what others "should" do, you’re “getting stuck on what you wish were true rather than what actually is true. This keeps you from working effectively toward a realistic solution.”

Matis writes about parent-child relationships here, but doesn’t this sound exactly like every charged issue we face in society these days?

Connect with Matis' work at https://theuncontrollablechild.com.